Any time a couple goes through a Manhattan divorce, it’s almost always going to exact at least some emotional toll, even if the split is amicable. 
Manhattan divorce attorneys know, however, that when the separation is the result of stress or grief related to the illness of a child, these burdens can feel doubly overwhelming. We handle cases involving children with great sensitivity and compassion.
Now, there is somewhat encouraging news being reported by the Danish Cancer Society Research Center in Copenhagen. Doctors there sought the answer to whether a child’s cancer has an impact on whether parents divorce.
The answer: It doesn’t.
We all know that a child’s illness can consume you. This is true even when they have the flu. But for those whose children suffer from chronic or acute illnesses, like leukemia or other forms of cancer, that heartache can have the impact of affecting your relationship with your spouse.
However, researchers found that divorce rates among parents of nearly 2,500 children who had been diagnosed with cancer between 1980 and 1997 had divorce rates that were comparable to the parents of 45,000 children who were deemed cancer-free.
That means no more, no less.
This also included parents who were not married, but who lived in cohabitation.
The team controlled for factors such as income and employment. It was also determined that whether or not the child survived did not impact the parents’ likelihood of divorce. The rate remained the same for them as it did the general population.
Now, that said, divorce rates are still very high in this country. According to the Centers for Disease Control, the marriage rate is roughly 7 per every 1,000 people. The divorce rate, meanwhile, is about 3.4 for every 1,000 – about half.
Researchers noted that there could be some cultural difference that should be taken into consideration when comparing a study done in Denmark than other areas of the world. For example, working mothers in Denmark are the norm – far more common than stay-at-home mothers. That compares pretty evenly to the U.S., where the government reports that more than 71 percent of women with children under the age of 18 are employed outside the home.
So overall, these results can be considered applicable to families in the U.S. undergoing the same trauma.
Of course, none of this means that your child’s illness will have no impact on your relationship. And there is some evidence to suggest that parents whose children are diagnosed with autism do in fact have higher divorce rates. A 2010 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found this to be true – although it’s not as high as the 80 percent, which was long rumored to be the case.
What occurs more frequently is that a divorcing couple has a child with significant, chronic and ongoing medical needs. It’s important that you consult with a Manhattan divorce attorney who understands the complications that come with long-term medical care needs. There have been many cases where one spouse qualifies for state or federal medical assistance, only to have the government come down on the other spouse, who has an obligation to help with ongoing medical expenses.
Albie Myburgh is a veteran New York City divorce attorney who represents clients in family law issues throughout the five boroughs: Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, The Bronx and Staten Island. Call 646-380-0130 or contact us through this website.







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